Nobody is coming

You’ve heard that before. No-one is coming to safe you. In fact nobody really can. It would have been nice if they could, but that's not how the game is made.

Life is like a sea - sometimes wavy, sometimes calm; sometimes cold, other times warmer. It can move you forward, but it can be your biggest obstacle too. The thing is that, if we don’t learn how to dance with it, we’re most likely to loose the battle.

There are moments, just like the stubborn child, it’s harder to accept it’s all upon us, that if you want the change, you have to make your own steps.

Your first priority

They say, how you do one thing is how you do everything. So how do you do yourself?

Do you speak, treat and think of yourself the same way you do to others? Or are you putting them before and above yourself? Are their needs more valuable for you to fulfil than your own? Why?

Talking, treating and carrying yourself in the best way you can and believe one is deserving of, is not a selfish act. In fact the contrary.

The example you give others by the way you treat yourself is crucial for your wellbeing and all that you receive. It comes from us first - from the inner believe, through the outer expression to the way others are reacting back to us.

Your first priority is yourself.

Then rest follows with ease.

A woman’s body

What an incredible experience!

Constantly changing. Capable to birth life. To expand, to transform and then get back to regularity. To feel truth and transmit peace.

The more I age, or better to say grow, the more I appreciate my female body. Observing carefully - what we like, what we don’t like, and how much all these changes are helping us and the world.

It might look like a men’s world, but we all came out of a women’s womb.

Sexes are not equal, but they’re equally important. Life is a duality, balance is key. Let’s give equally high credits to both parties. And may both know their true role…

Is Sensual the same as Sexy?

Short answer - no.

Long answer - here we go…

Sensual is about engaging the senses - touch, sight, smell, taste, and sound. As engaged they evoke pleasure, intimacy, or deep emotional connection. It’s more about feeling and atmosphere, often subtle, soft, and intimate. Sensuality doesn’t have to be explicitly sexual; it can be present in the way someone moves, the textures of fabrics, or the lighting in a photograph.

Sexy is more direct and overtly appealing to desire and attraction. It’s about being physically alluring and evoking a reaction based on attraction or seduction. Something sexy often has a more explicit intent to arouse or entice.

In photography, a sensual image might focus on soft lighting, gentle curves, and an intimate mood, while a sexy image might include bolder expressions, provocative poses, or revealing clothing. Sensuality can be more about suggestion and feeling, whereas sexiness tends to be more about direct attraction.

More clear now?

This is what I stand for and this is what I offer to my clients - a visual experience where they feel seen, acknowledged and heard, not just photographed with or without they intimate clothing.

Photography is 2 demential form to visualise reality, moments, people. It has power hold by the photographer and inevitably being their responsibility to what and how is captured and shown.

Sex sells, yes, for a lot. But how much would you pay to be fully seen and valued?

The most important Love?

Does February remind you of an obligation to show your love through physical gifts and heart shaped items, or rather makes you roll your eyes up in the air - “love is to be celebrated every day!”.

I agree - Love is to be celebrated and shown every day. Love, the feeling that has many shapes, goes to different faces, but at the core is always the same - incredibly liberating feeling we live for, the one through which we exist.

What is the most important love of all? Love towards your parents or your children? Love towards your partner or friends? Love towards your mission in life or the mindful activities you lean on to keep yourself sane? What is the Love that truly matters no matter what? Where do you find it and how’s it look?

The answer is simple - it’s You. The love you most need is the love you have to give yourself. The same enormous feeling of liberation and fulfilment that vibrates in your chest, expands outwards and sweeps everything on its way. The love you long for to feel complete, to feel happy, to feel content is the pure love that you need to give yourself.

But… How come? Isn’t this selfish?

No.

It’s not selfish, it’s self care. Your capacity to love unconditionally must start from within and expand outwards. The relationship you most need is the one you need to build with yourself in order to share a loving partnership with someone else. Because you can only give what you already have and not the other way around. The more compassionate and loving you are to the person you are most critical towards (yourself) is the key to building a deep, meaningful relationship with anyone else.

During celebrations like Valentine’s day we often put ourselves in a certain group of people, depending on our marital status. If we’re single - we root for self-love. If we’re in a relationship - towards romantic love. I’ve seen people change and take sides depending on the year. I’ve been one of them too - choosing a certain side depending on the moment. But what we all really must understand and accept is ourselves and the love we must give ourselves first.

Nobody else is you, nobody knows what’s inside of you. Nobody will ever be as close as your own Self, nobody can feel your emotions like you do. So let’s start there first. Not just once a year pumped up by the bombarding marketing from all directions, but every day in privacy. For you from you. Because you deserve Love and Love is all you need to allow yourself to give yourself in order to receive. Rest will follow.

With Love and Gratitude,
Mariya