I used to be ashamed of taking my time in privacy, in solitude to regenerate my energy in order to be my best and give my best in social situations. For years I thought it just me being weird, scared or avoiding life and responsibilities. In way, yes, avoidance can appear, but if you’re like me and carefully observe yourself, ll see how necessary going inwards is.

The time you spent with yourself, with your body and your mind, despite sounding like a torture in the beginning, is the most valuable and nurturing time one can have. It’s about discovering yourself the way you are without social masks, expected behaviours or an aim to please.

When you know yourself you minimice the affect other people or situations have over you. You learn how to deal with your own fears, how to calm yourself when needed, how to figure our life when there’s no one to give you the guidance.

Investing in the time to get to know yourself better doesn’t involve playing video games or scrolling down the TikTok. Like with every other person and activity, to really master it, to get to know how it function and how to manage it, one must give it their whole presence, pay attention and listen the response of their questions.

I’ve always had two worlds - the social time with people I love and the Me time with the person that knows me best. I get so comfortable with myself that I can even forget that a a human species I do need my tribe too. This misalignment have caused me intense anxiety moments, but if I didn’t have it I would’ve known that I need both of those worlds in order to function in the pest possible way.

If you’re like me and feel guilty and strange to reply to your inner voice asking you for some solo time, don’t avoid it, take the time and enjoy the ride. You’ll come back much more authentic, inspired and loving towards others if you first learn to truly accept and love your own self.