When it's time to change?

By will or by force? And why so often we wait for the force, even though we’ve had the desire much earlier?

It’s interesting how our own mind can sabotage us, it’s just trying to protect us and keep us safe. Even more when it has some kind of underlined trauma, It can trick us in thinking that the familiar bad is better than the unknown good. And here we are - facing the paradox.

There is a moment you’re perfectly familiar with, that you just make the firm decision to change, to move, to go, to stop or begin something that is beneficial for you, something that you’ve been secretly wanting for so long. This moment can take years and numerous of painful experiences, but once you decide, there’s no turning back.

Time is quickly passing by. Yesterday you said tomorrow. 10 years from now, you’ll regret you didn’t start 10 year ago.

We all know those lines, yet how long is it taking you so far to make that pending decision that will better your life and yourself?

Hidden or non existent?

There are time when we don’t feel like appearing on photographs. Reasons vary form not feeling dressed up appropriately to not feeling good in or own skin. Yet the moments never repeat and sometimes such simple refusal can costs us a regret for a life time.

I know perfectly well the feeling of wanting to escape my own skin. I’ve done hiding from photographs for all kind of reasons and appearing to such just to record the moment. Both led me to the conclusion - life doesn’t stop for anyone so better a bad photo with the loved ones, that no photo to remind us the moment.

It all comes down to this - what do you want to remember and with who? The value of a photograph is not the perfect exposure or perfect model body positioned well. Sometimes the most important photographs are blurry, not exposed correctly or randomly summarising a situation using part of people and weird objects.

Social media has turned photography into a daily competition for the most exciting, rich life of the wannabe entrepreneur who made it in his 30s. Yet the value remains in a simple, genuine photograph at your grandparents village house eating vegetables from the garden in a hot summer day dressed up in the most basic outfit covered with dust of soil.

Stop and breath

Let it flow. Trust. Allow. Accept the change and move accordingly. Learn to dance under the rhythm of life.

The clarity of the calmness, leaving things get arranged in a natural way. We’re just actors in this human life, here to play the role we’ve selected, contributing our part, but also allowing the mighty scenario of Life to expand and manage it all.

Being strong, having the resilience to go through hard moments in life is great, but turns harmful if we don’t know when to stop to take a breath. It’s useless if we don’t know how to lower the guard down when the storm is over.

Life is a duality, we’re both sides of the Yin and Yang. As such all we’re required to do is keep managing the balance and adjust accordingly.

Fear or Excitement?

They say the feeling is the same.

You fear failure, bulling, shame and guild, but what if it all works out? What if the fear of the unknown is actually the curiosity getting thought?

We will never find out if we never try what we want, if we never go where we’re drawn to, if we never look for what we want to find. The fear of regret is bigger and heavier than the fear of failure.

Time is passing. Time we’ll never get back. The fear stays the same. The lizard brain, the ego, trying to protect us are keeping us steady, where all that is needed is to flow along with Life. To trust the waves, the storms and the calm waters under the bright sun. To have faith that it is all working out, it is all arranging itself for our highest good, as it is in fact doing so.

We have no control on anything else but the way we perceive life. The way we choose to feel and the way we react. This shapes our reality and determines whether or not we get what we need and want.

So the question really is, not what we fear, but how we can keep walking with the uncomfortable feeling but with a hearth full of faith and trust in the higher conciseness, that indeed, has out back. Always.

Daily undaily

Variety of research shows that habits are build between 21 and 40 days. And if want the result but skip a step, you better start anew.

I’m aware and I go in and out of certain habits. Found out anxiety has been my main buddy throughout my life, so working on this (kind of toxic) relationship lets me deprive myself of doing what I like, want and really look forward to. Like this Daily Blog for example.

I think about it, think about you too. But also learning to allow myself to take time and observe myself, the patterns I carry and the reason I’m moving towards the goals I desire.

This is a simple note for you, for me, for us - the world won’t finish if you skip a step, if you slow dow, if you restart the game. Sometimes a daily practice is nonlinear, disorganised even passive. A daily practice is not also the desire to move forward, even while standing still but simply not giving up. Daily practice is also acknowledging how you feel, how much energy you have and that not all days you can be on 100%.