Loneliness VS solitude

Often mistaken one for another.

You want want a better life, better outcomes, better relationships, but avoid the simplest thing of all - spending time with yourself.

I remember the times when I was clingy, emotionally attached, scared of doing things by myself or being alone. Like being on my own was unacceptable and I had to feel down for not having anyone around. Many tears, self harm and wasted energy. It thought me to look deeper into the mirror. To listen to the silence. To first acknowledge how I feel, then relate to the outside world.

I know many who are afraid of being alone, or feel strange to do things on their own. But how do you learn about yourself, how can you get to know yourself if you don’t spent time only with yourself by yourself?

Solitude is not loneliness. It’s a luxurious private retreat where you get to know the real You. The one that you often tent to hide. The one that has secrets only you know about. The one that has never betrayed you and always walked by your side. The one that loves you, even when you don’t know how to love yourself.

It’s not about you

It’s about your mission. Your purpose, the work you were sent here to do.

It’s not about the opinion of your what your family or friends, but what you are supposed to give to the community. A unique work that only you can do to break the hurtful patterns of the past and plant new seeds for the future.

It’s not about how far you can go, but how deep you can reach those you touch along the way. Your mission is important for you, for us and for the Whole.

Staying small, keeping it all hidden inside when you perfectly know you’re more than what they perceive, is not an act of humbleness but rather a disservice towards all of us and all there is.

It’s not a coincidence, luck or a chance. God, the Universe, or however you call it has created you like this for a reason. All of it, until the smallest of detail. Your soul chose to come and perform this way around. Your ego is under your control, not the other way around.

You’re not here to obey to other’s ego performance.

You’re here to let your light shine bright as far and as deep it possibly can.

Behave like it

Trust the process

…even if you don’t see the outcome yet.

Been told this so many times, yet impatience still remains.

When we plant a seed we don’t dig the soil every other minute to see if it’s growing. Instead we water it and wait. We believe that it will grow, without even seeing the process. And one day, “out of surprise” or “luck”, we see the little green leaf stretching up above the soil.

What a celebration! It’s growing! It’s working!

Yes, the process is working withought humans’ micro management. Rather with their believe and trust. Faith and patience.

Sometimes I wonder, do plants hurt when they grow through the soil the same way we do when we go through hurdles in life?

Drastic change or simple decision

While longing for the dream outcome, we often get paralysed by making a simple decision.

It’s like we’re tired of walking the path before we even started. Or afraid that all that we wish for can come true.

In the end it’s just the ego trying to protect us from danger, yet not every unknown aspect of life is a life threatening danger.

A long way starts with a little step forward. A desired change starts with a simple decision. The quiet, inner decision of “I’ve had enough”.

And just as simple as that, you never turned back…

Drastic change or simple decision

While longing for the dream outcome, we often get paralysed by making a simple decision.

It’s like we’re tired of walking the path before we even started. Or afraid that all that we wish for can come true.

In the end it’s just the ego trying to protect us from danger, yet not every unknown aspect of life is a life threatening danger.

A long way starts with a little step forward. A desired change starts with a simple decision. The quiet, inner decision of “I’ve had enough”.

And just as simple as that, you never turned back…