To know what you don’t want means to find out what you do want. The darkness helps us appreciate and value the light. Pain in any askepct helps us see the reverse side of that exact aspect.

Not being aware of the problem is often the biggest problem, as when the realisation comes one is able to change the behaviour causing pain. However, many times we just stop there - we suffered, we saw what was causing us suffering, but we continue the same old way as it’s more familiar. Change is unknown and as species we don’t really like the unknown. Our brain is protecting us, keeping us in the safe comfort zone, even though that same zone is causing us the very pain we dislike.

They say the way to really make the decision is when the pain of staying the same is beggar than the pain of changing what’s causing that pain. In a way then we do like pain. Accustomed to our familiar pain, we prefer to stay there instead of enduring a new pain, and unknown pain even if that new often temporary would take us to the goal we so desire.

First comes the realisation, the awareness that we’re disconnected from the body we live in. We finally see what’s causing us so much suffering. With that we acknowledge the process or steps needed to change, to better, to heal the problem. Sounds early in our head and way more faster than when we do a few actions towards it. And just after that there is the moment we stop, we delay, we give up. The moment of the acknowledgement of the fact there is effort containing another type of discomfort needed to reach the goal of removing the familiar pain. Why suffer in the unknown when you already suffer with a familiarity?

I’m still investigating for myself what’s more painful not knowing what’s causing you pain or acting in contrary feeling different type of pain to reach the desired result.

It’s all in your hands.